Ah, the fear of rejection–your first hurdle on the track to dating success. Let me paint you a picture: you’re at a club, and you see a total babe hanging around the bar with her friends. Maybe she’s even thrown a smile or two your way. You desperately want to approach and strike up a conversation. But wait! Something’s wrong. Your palms are sweaty. Your heart’s racing. You can’t think of a single thing to say. And so you let the opportunity pass, and beat yourself up about it for the rest of the night.
Sound familiar?
Fear of rejection–an aspiring PUA’s #1 enemy
If you’re reading this, chances are you’ve been rejected at least a few times. Negative experiences like this often lead to a self-defeating fear of rejection that can kill your game before you even get a chance to put it to use. But don’t worry; you can take solid, proven steps to overcome rejection, build self-confidence, and learn ways to approach women that are so effective, you won’t even be able to remember what rejection feels like.
Get over rejection–get on with your game
The first step is learning how to deal with rejection. Every pick-up attempt is a learning experience–including the ones that fail. Take advantage of this. Don’t waste time whining to your buddies about how you just got the “I’m not looking for a relationship” line, or the “let’s just be friends” line. And don’t dog a girl who’s obviously not interested–especially if she’s already told you so. It just makes you look pathetic and undesirable to available girls in the pick-up venue you might otherwise have had a chance with. Above all, don’t give up hope. Buying a cat and devoting your life to stamp collecting might save you the embarrassment of rejection, but it also won’t get you any action.
Mistakes are part of the learning process, in picking up women just as in anything else. The ability to learn from your mistakes, to analyze failed pick-up attempts and determine why you got rejected, is a very important tool for the aspiring womanizer. Believe it or not, in nearly all cases, there is something you, yourself could have done to avoid getting rejected–whether it be by directing the conversation more effectively (i.e. not trying to impress her with an inventory of your Star Wars memorabilia collection), avoiding cheesy come-on routines, or even picking a more available target. So don’t let fear of rejection keep you from approaching girls–at the very least, getting shot down will help you gain experience for your next attempt.
The second part of overcoming rejection, of course, is learning how not to get rejected. Conquering shyness and anxiety are only the first step; no matter how bold and self-assured you may be, you’re still charging into failure if you’ve got no pick-up skills. Successful players don’t rely on “natural” charm, nor are they misled into believing that once they’ve built up enough confidence to actually talk to a girl, everything else magically takes care of itself. The truth is that meeting women is an art and a science, one that anyone can master if they take the time to learn and practice the skills that it requires.
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