Negs: Not Always The Best Approach

When, Why and How Neg Hits Can Backfire

Of all the weapons in your arsenal, negs are probably the most useful. They regulate the level of attraction, allow you to regroup for a moment and ensure you are always in control. But, a lot of guys who are new to the PU scene can overplay on the negs, and that’s when trouble can strike.

Why is this? Well, learning how to become a pick-up artist is, to put it simply, pretty cool. You learn the ins and outs of landing the girl (or girls) of your dreams. There’s a lot of lingo, tons of tricks and many moves that can make you feel like a rock star with the ladies.

And, neg hits are one of the things you learn that can really make you feel like you’ve got it all. After so many years of coming off as a desperate chump, you’re finally in a position to tell a girl to back off for a second. It can be a rush to do that, knowing how she’s going to come back for more in about 30 seconds.

But negs don’t work in every situation. And they don’t work on everyone. Here are some ways to avoid having that neg come back and bite you on the ass – and not in a good way.

1. Opening neg hits. Opening with a harsh neg hit can set the tone right away – but what a lot of newbie players forget is that they really on work on solid tens. That’s because they’re used to being complimented, and the instant breaking of rapport creates instant interest. But for most girls, a harsh neg hit is just going to make them think you’re an asshole.

2. Pausing after a neg. If you’re in the groove and you want to throw a neg out there, make sure you have something to say either to her or someone else in the set, so it comes off as the throwaway line it’s meant to be. If you neg a girl and then have nothing to say, you’re inviting her to respond – and chances are you won’t like what she’s going to come up with. Don’t give her a chance.

3. Negging people other than your target. The purpose of a neg is to disarm her by taking yourself out of the game. It makes her attracted to you. So, why are you negging your wingman? That makes you seem like you keep people around you who you think less of. Why are you negging someone else in the set? You sound just plain mean. Why are you negging a male friend of hers? Now you’re looking like an insecure douchebag.

4. Throwing mean negs. Everything has to be playful. Do it with a smile on your face, keep the energy up and make it clear you’re joking. The lowest you should go is a neg compliment – there has to be some positivity about it. If your neg humor is mean-spirited, you’re just going to look like a jerk who hates women.

5. Leaving the negs in play. Any player routine that includes negs has to include ebb and flow as well. If you’re shooting out one neg after another without any positive reinforcement, whether with verbal or physical clues, then you seem like someone who gets off on putting other people down. That couldn’t be further from the image you want to project.

The key is balancing your negs with positive affirmations; focusing your negs only on your target; and keeping all your negs light and playful. That’s the way to make the close! There are plenty more tips, tricks and secrets about negs in the Member’s Area- check it out sign up today to perfect your game.

Picking Up Women: Advice From the Masters

If you want to learn how to pick up women, it pays to listen to the advice of a master.  And just your luck, we’ve got not one, but two bona fide pick up legends to share their expertise!

Neil Strauss, a.k.a. “Style”, is the New York Times bestselling author of The Game:  Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists.  David DeAngelo is a pick up pioneer who conducts lectures and workshops nationwide on the secrets behind meeting women.  Put them together, and what do you get?  A conversation you’ll definitely want to listen in on.

It’s easier than you think

A lot of guys read this stuff, or hear about it, and think it’s too good to be true; picking up women can’t possibly be this easy.  But give it a shot, and you’ll be surprised.

DeAngelo recalls the story of an average joe who attended one of his seminars.  He described how he had managed to strike up a conversation with an attractive woman in a public place just by walking up and saying, “Hi, I’m just out walking around, meeting people tonight, how you doing?”

“He couldn’t imagine, in his whole life, it would be that easy,” says DeAngelo.  “Just to literally, just walk up and say, ‘I’m out meeting people tonight.’”

Be prepared–be successful

The old Boy Scout motto applies just as much to picking up women as it does to starting a fire with two sticks.  And the best place to start preparing is your mind.  Get energized.  Remember, bars and clubs are there for entertainment:  everyone is there to have a good time.  Get yourself pumped up before you approach people.  You’ll have far more success picking up women with an active, energetic attitude than you will mopey, depressed, or still hung over from the previous night.

Plan out ways to strike up a conversation, too.  Have some one-liners and conversation openers ready to go.  This doesn’t mean you have to stick to them rigidly; if you hear anything interesting that could get people talking during the course of your day, don’t be afraid to give it a shot.  Being prepared doesn’t mean you can’t be flexible.

Obstacles on the path to pick up glory

Speaking of flexibility, one of the major mistakes most guys make, according to Strauss, is thinking too much.  Don’t get so bogged down in techniques and theory that you can’t respond spontaneously to a situation.  Strauss prepares for sarging the same way he prepares for an interview:  “I write down all the things I want to talk about, all the things I want to do…every point…I put it on a piece of paper, study it, fold it up, put it in my back pocket, and never look at it again.”  In other words, there’s a point where preparation has to stop, and spontaneity has to begin.  “Once you’re out there, you can’t think; you have to respond and be in the moment.”

Another common problem is fear of rejection.  Strauss is no stranger to nerves; despite having met thousands of women, he still gets butterflies before approaching a group of strangers.  But, as he puts it, you just have to give yourself a kick in the pants and do it.  And don’t be afraid of rejection–believe it or not, nothing too bad is going to happen.  “Never once has anyone been mean, or cruel, or hurt me, or shot me down,” he relates.  “The worst that’s happened is maybe, you know, I don’t engage them.”

You’ve heard it straight from the experts’ mouths; be confident, prepared, and flexible, and picking up women will come a lot easier than you might expect.  But you’ve still got to get your game down if you want to work magic like David DeAngelo or Neil Strauss.  So be sure to check out our Members’ Section for all the great techniques that make these guys the masters they are.  Time is women, so don’t waste it:  sign up today!