Negs: Not Always The Best Approach

When, Why and How Neg Hits Can Backfire

Of all the weapons in your arsenal, negs are probably the most useful. They regulate the level of attraction, allow you to regroup for a moment and ensure you are always in control. But, a lot of guys who are new to the PU scene can overplay on the negs, and that’s when trouble can strike.

Why is this? Well, learning how to become a pick-up artist is, to put it simply, pretty cool. You learn the ins and outs of landing the girl (or girls) of your dreams. There’s a lot of lingo, tons of tricks and many moves that can make you feel like a rock star with the ladies.

And, neg hits are one of the things you learn that can really make you feel like you’ve got it all. After so many years of coming off as a desperate chump, you’re finally in a position to tell a girl to back off for a second. It can be a rush to do that, knowing how she’s going to come back for more in about 30 seconds.

But negs don’t work in every situation. And they don’t work on everyone. Here are some ways to avoid having that neg come back and bite you on the ass – and not in a good way.

1. Opening neg hits. Opening with a harsh neg hit can set the tone right away – but what a lot of newbie players forget is that they really on work on solid tens. That’s because they’re used to being complimented, and the instant breaking of rapport creates instant interest. But for most girls, a harsh neg hit is just going to make them think you’re an asshole.

2. Pausing after a neg. If you’re in the groove and you want to throw a neg out there, make sure you have something to say either to her or someone else in the set, so it comes off as the throwaway line it’s meant to be. If you neg a girl and then have nothing to say, you’re inviting her to respond – and chances are you won’t like what she’s going to come up with. Don’t give her a chance.

3. Negging people other than your target. The purpose of a neg is to disarm her by taking yourself out of the game. It makes her attracted to you. So, why are you negging your wingman? That makes you seem like you keep people around you who you think less of. Why are you negging someone else in the set? You sound just plain mean. Why are you negging a male friend of hers? Now you’re looking like an insecure douchebag.

4. Throwing mean negs. Everything has to be playful. Do it with a smile on your face, keep the energy up and make it clear you’re joking. The lowest you should go is a neg compliment – there has to be some positivity about it. If your neg humor is mean-spirited, you’re just going to look like a jerk who hates women.

5. Leaving the negs in play. Any player routine that includes negs has to include ebb and flow as well. If you’re shooting out one neg after another without any positive reinforcement, whether with verbal or physical clues, then you seem like someone who gets off on putting other people down. That couldn’t be further from the image you want to project.

The key is balancing your negs with positive affirmations; focusing your negs only on your target; and keeping all your negs light and playful. That’s the way to make the close! There are plenty more tips, tricks and secrets about negs in the Member’s Area- check it out sign up today to perfect your game.