Cocky Comedy Demystified

Cocky comedy is an extremely powerful conversation tool.  PUA masters like David DeAngelo rely on it heavily to improve their chances with women.  Here’s a bit more in-depth information on what cocky comedy is and what it does.

Arrogance + Humor

The basic elements of cocky comedy are arrogance and humor.  These two go hand in hand:  the arrogance factor establishes and maintains your socially dominant position relative to the target woman, while humor counterbalances the arrogance, lessening your chances of getting a negative reaction.

Both of these are vital to the cocky comedy approach.  Humor without arrogance will make you seem goofy, and not worth taking seriously–like a court jester, so to speak.  While arrogance without humor just makes you seem like a jerk.  It’s important to find, and stick to, the right balance between them; too much of one or the other may actually lessen your chances with women.

Subtle, but effective

The beauty of cocky comedy is that it’s so subtle.  Unless a woman has devoted any time to studying seduction techniques–and most of them haven’t–she’ll have no idea when a guy is using cocky comedy.  And the subtlety is good.  Just like Dian Fossey got to bump elbows with gorillas by blending in with them, so you’ll have a better chance of creating attraction with a woman if you seem natural and spontaneous than if everything you say sounds like it came straight out of a manual.

The effects of cocky comedy are subtle, too.  This is due largely to humor’s role in the equation; arrogant behavior is a natural means of establishing social dominance, but without the mitigating effect of humor, the situation could become confrontational, rather than friendly.  In other words, stinting on humor can quickly turn a pick-up attempt into a headbutting match.  Which, again, is why it’s so important to properly balance humor and arrogance.

Establishing trust and not looking creepy

Everybody has some anxiety about strangers–it’s ingrained into our minds since childhood.  Women are often particularly concerned about the character of the kinds of guys they meet in pick up venues.  An effective cocky funny routine can help overcome this obstacle.  If used correctly, cocky comedy can dispel the negative assumptions many women have about guys, making you appear more charming and less threatening.

A technique that works especially well for this purpose is playful rejection.  That’s right:  I said rejection.  Reacting with too much enthusiasm to flirtatious remarks or body contact might make you seem a little too eager.  Instead, try shooting her down with a comment like, “Oh, you just want me for my body, don’t you.  Man, why can’t I meet a woman who likes me for me?”  She’ll be both amused and relieved to know that you’re not a ragingly horny caveman–while you, ironically, will have a much better chance of getting some private time with her, you sly dog.

Going into a conversation with a clearly defined purpose (in this case, creating attraction) puts you well ahead of most other guys, who don’t really think about what they want to accomplish when they approach women.  Using conversation tools like cocky comedy ups your chances even more.  But do you want to settle for good enough, or go in with your A-game?  If your answer is “yes” (and come on, we both know it is), then you’ll definitely want to head over to our Members’ Section.  Aside from loads of additional info on cocky comedy, it’s got tons of other great tips for improving your method. So don’t wait:  the sooner you start training, the sooner you can start playing.  And the sooner you start playing, the sooner you start scoring.  Sign up today!

Approaches to Cocky Comedy – Part 3

We could go on and on about cocky comedy–in fact, we pretty much have.  And yet we haven’t even come close to exhausting the topic.

Cocky comedy is incredibly versatile, and it’s well worth any serious PUA’s time to devote some detailed study to it.  Here are some more examples of cocky comedy, and specific ways to use it.

Be goofy!

Cocky comedy doesn’t always have to have some subtle ulterior motive.  Sometimes, the situation just calls for a good laugh, pure and simple.  Try doing goofy things like welcoming girls to the club when the walk in, thanking them for their patronage–then acting confused when they think you work there.  Or a classic routine, and one of my personal favorites:  when you see a girl eyeing you, pull out your cell phone, and act like you’re talking about her to someone, making sure she hears you.  For example:  “Yeah, I’m alone…well, there’s this girl at the next table.  Yeah, she’s cute, I guess, but I think something’s wrong with her eye, she keeps staring at me.”  Sure to evoke a giggle every time.

Laughter puts people at ease, and makes them feel more comfortable around you.  You can maintain the arrogance factor of cocky comedy while toning down the challenging aspect of it, and it’s okay to do so–especially around shy or insecure girls, who may be intimidated by too much teasing.  A less intense form of cocky comedy can be useful in getting this type of woman–or any type, for that matter–to warm up to you if you’re particularly concerned about offending her.

Be genuine!

Above all, be yourself when using cocky comedy.  Everybody’s style is a little different, so adapt these techniques to suit yours.  If an approach isn’t working for you, try putting a different spin on it to suit your personality.  And if it just doesn’t seem right, drop it and try something else; there are plenty of different cocky funny approaches, so there’s no need to keep hammering away at one if you just can’t get the hang of it.

Everyone has the capacity to be funny, but our individual senses of humor manifest in different ways.  If you’re the dry, sarcastic type, something silly like the cell phone trick probably won’t seem natural coming from you.  Similarly, if you’ve got an energetic, straightforward personality, you’ll probably have a more playful, flirtatious sense of humor.  Don’t be afraid to stick with what you do best; if you can’t make it funny, forget about it.  Nothing’s less funny than somebody trying to be funny and not succeeding.  Remember, you want them laughing with you…not stare blankly at you.

Now that you’ve got a good idea of the different approaches you can take to cocky comedy, it’s time to start learning about it in earnest.  Our Members’ Section has more info on cocky comedy than you can shake a stick at, plus lots of other great tips on how to improve your game and pick up the women you want.  So what are you waiting for?  Great comedians are made, not born.  Sign up today!

Approaches to Cocky Comedy – Part 2

Cocky comedy’s usefulness as a tool for picking up women cannot be understated. Field tests have proven time and again that chicks eat it up. Part of its greatness is its versatility; you can adapt cocky comedy routines in a variety of ways to suit the circumstances, and even use it to reinforce other pick up methods, like being mysterious or establishing dominance.

We’ve already seen a few examples of specific cocky comedy applications. Now let’s look at a few more.

Redirecting negative reactions

Keeping the balance between sarcastic and funny can be tricky. Some chicks might react negatively to your cocky comedy; maybe you misgauged them and pushed a joke too far, or maybe they were just touchy to begin with. Either way, there’s a good chance you can smooth things over with more cocky comedy.

If a girl gets offended at your teasing, try asking, “Do you need a hug?” Or taking a psychoanalytical approach and saying, “Do you want to talk about those feelings?” By using a comeback like one of these, you’re ridiculing her for getting angry in the first place, but softening the blow by being facetious; in doing so, you reaffirm that you didn’t intend any harm, but keeping up the challenging attitude that women can’t resist, which is what makes cocky comedy so effective in the first place. She won’t be able to help but crack a smile.

Maintaining mystery

If you’ve taken a gander at some of the videos in our Members’ Section, you’ll remember that creating a suave, mysterious persona will go a long way toward helping you pick up women. Put shortly, an aura of mystery makes you interesting; the less women know about you, the more they want to find out. Cocky comedy can be useful here, too.

When girls ask you questions about yourself, try defusing them with a cocky funny response. If they want to know how old you are, try responding with “Too old to answer that question.” If they want to know what you do for a living, tell them you’re an astronaut, or a lion tamer, or something else completely off-the-wall. If you don’t tell them what they want to know, they’ll only want to know more.

Being the top dog

Another important element of improving your game is learning to establish, and keep, control of the situation. Chimp-like as it might sound to all you feminists out there, it’s true; human beings establish dominance in all social settings, and all your pick up moves can only be effective when you are the dominant one in a relationship with a girl.

You maintain dominance by not giving in to a girl’s demands, not giving excuses for things she doesn’t like, never offering syrupy-sweet compliments, and so on. Here again, cocky comedy can help you out. If she wants to know where you were last night, say, “With your Mom.” Or if she wants to know why you didn’t call, try flat-out saying, “I didn’t want to.” Anybody trying to get to the top of the social hierarchy risks being perceived as a jerk; by using cocky comedy to evade chicks’ attempts to make you justify your behavior, you not only hold onto your hard-won alpha male position, you avoid making a negative impression.

These are just a few of the ways you can use cocky comedy. But if you want the real skinny on the hows and whys of using cocky comedy–and a whole lot of other useful dating techniques–you’ll definitely want to check out our Members’ Section. It’s got everything you’ll need to up your game, from tips on fashion, to conversation starters–and yes, everything you could possibly want to know about cocky comedy. So don’t waste time; cocky comedy is a huge subject, and the sooner you get started, the better. Sign up today!

Approaches to Cocky Comedy – Part 1

If you’ve been paying any attention to this site at all, you ought to know by now that cocky comedy is one of the most effective tools you can use to pick up women.  And if you don’t–well, bonehead, go back and read up on it.  And pay attention this time!

Cocky comedy is a subtle art, one to which you could devote a lifetime of study, and still not understand its many intricacies.  Here are a few specific tactics you can take with cocky comedy.

Be a smart ass!

Sarcasm is an integral part of cocky comedy.  Having a snappy comeback ready is a great way to generate interest; the right acerbic remark, delivered at the right time, will come across as both witty and challenging.  Which equals attraction.  Some examples:

Her:  “I’m an old-fashioned girl.”

You:  “So it’s strictly lights-out, then?”

or:

You:  “What’s your friend look like?”

Her:  “Well, she’s athletic, she drives a BMW, she has a Master’s in business administration…”

You:  “That bad, huh?”

This follows the basic cocky comedy formula:  sarcastic plus arrogant.  In addition to being funny, it reinforces your social standing relative to hers; you’re basically demonstrating that you’re in a position to judge, which helps you maintain control of the situation.  Conversation dynamics like this are something of an advanced topic, one that’s covered in more depth in our Members’ Section; for now, just remember that skillfully executed cocky comedy not only makes them laugh, it helps you establish dominance.

The tricky part here is finding the right balance between cocky and funny.  You don’t want to be too jokey, but you don’t want to be downright rude, either.  If you get this right, the girl will be shocked, amused, and impressed all at the same time–even if she doesn’t entirely get the joke.

Be playful!

There are plenty of other ways to be funny and challenging, too.  Don’t be afraid to mess with a girl’s head a little.  Try giving nonsense answers to her questions, just to see how she responds, or doing silly, irritating things like tapping her shoulder as you walk by, so she turns around and finds no one there.

Again, the key with this is finding the right balance.  If you go overboard with it, you end up looking like an annoying pest; on the other hand, if you don’t put your heart into it, it won’t work.  Be confident, but moderate; use this approach wisely, and like an itch at the small of her back, she won’t be able to stop thinking about you.

Check out the video for more examples of the cocky funny way of thinking.  But if you’d rather learn how than see it done, you’ll want to check out our Members’ Section.  In it, we’ve got the best in-depth advice on understanding and using cocky comedy, as well as loads of information on subjects like what to wear, how to act, and much more.  So don’t wait; time wasted is time you could have spent getting phone numbers.  Sign up today!