Building Confidence: Practice Makes Perfect

You’re Good Enough, You’re Smart Enough, and Gosh Darn It, People Like You! Defining Confidence

Being a major PUA may attract the ladies, but here’s a little known secret: It’s your confidence that will make the difference between closing and hearing the dreaded, “let’s just be friends.”

Ouch. So, how do you go about building confidence? Well, there are tons of things you can do. But, let’s just admit it right here – “confidence” sounds like something from a self-help book. It makes you feel like that old SNL character – “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like me!”

In short, it makes you sound like an AFC. Man, it makes me cringe just thinking about the word confidence. What am I, in a deodorant commercial? So, for lack of anything better, let’s call it mojo. Everybody wants a piece of that mojo, son.

Mojo is nothing less than crucial. If you don’t have it, there’s not a babe on earth who’s going to give you the time of day. Mojo makes you look better, stand taller, and take the risks necessary to bag the honeys.

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Why Most Guys Will Never Attract Hot Women…

In most of these videos, we’ve been trying to dispel the myth that there’s some magical secret that will help you attract hot women.  We’ve been trying to pound into your noggin the idea that you’re going to have to work hard and progress gradually, that it’s going to take time and involve learning several new skills and techniques, and that there is no one single thing that’s going to make it happen.  And now, well…I’m telling you that that’s not entirely true.

Not that we were lying, or that you should ignore all the other videos you’ve already seen.  The fact is, all the information in the previous lessons is very important, and very useful.  But there’s still one element missing, the most important factor in growing out of Average Frustrated Chump-dom and becoming a true Pick-Up Master.  This element binds together everything else you’ve learned and makes it work like a well-oiled machine; it’s so vital to your pick up success, that if you ignore it, you might as well give up.  Are you ready to learn more?

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She Thinks You’re A Wuss!

So you hit the gym seven days a week.  You’ve got pecs that could crush walnuts.  You can walk a straight line after a fifth of gin, and you’ve got three scars on your back from where you rushed into a burning firework stand to save a kitten.

Big deal.  Chances are, women still think you’re a wuss.

Confidence takes more than just biceps curls

No, I’m not saying this because I’m jealous.  I’m saying it because, if you’re like most men, you buy women drinks, give them little gifts, pay their way every time you go out, and just generally put them on a pedestal and worship them.  This is called supplication, Beefsteak.  And contrary to what Grandpa may have taught you about dating etiquette, it makes you look like a chump.

Get up off your knees…unless, y’know, you’re into that

Supplication is any action you take that puts her desires ahead of yours, or puts you in an inferior social position to her, and it blows all the effort you’ve put into building confidence to shreds.  It can take a variety of forms; aside from the examples listed above, notorious supplicating moves include giving the appearance of actively pursuing a woman, putting her in a situation where she makes most of the decisions (i.e. asking where she wants to go for dinner, when she wants to go out, etc.), acting “clingy”, or admitting that you have “feelings” for her, especially if she hasn’t already done so first.

The problem with this type of behavior is that it gives the woman control; it either puts her in a leadership role in the relationship, or makes you appear vulnerable.  Either way, you come out looking like a major wuss.  No woman likes to be with a wuss.  And once she realizes you’re a wuss, you get canned–and all the work you’ve put into building confidence goes right out the window.

You’ve probably realized by this point in the course that building confidence is extremely important to your dating success.  There’s plenty of advice in our Members’ Section to help you with that.  But don’t forget, you don’t stop needing confidence as soon as you learn each others’ names.  Confidence with women has to be maintained throughout the entire relationship; in fact, it gets even more important after you progress beyond the introductory stage, when the things that can chip away your confidence become subtler in nature and harder to detect.  And really, this is what supplication is all about:  lack of confidence.

When you have no confidence with women, you try to compensate by providing gifts and handing decisions over to them in a misguided attempt to display your self-worth.  But women see through this.  It’s true that women in general are better at reading people than men are, and they will know if you lack confidence, even if you don’t.  And that, my friends, is the true definition of a wuss:  a man lacking confidence.  Just as women are initially attracted to confident men, they want to stay with confident men–men who take charge, men who are leaders, who make the decisions and don’t back down.  In short, men who wear the pants.  So don’t fall into the wuss trap; continue to build your confidence, before, during, and after the pick up.  And if you find yourself supplicating, stop and remind yourself who’s boss, or risk getting stomped on like any other wuss.

Want more great advice on building confidence?  In our Members’ Section you’ll find the info you need to polish every aspect of your game, from self-esteem, to wardrobe, to conversation skills and beyond.  So why waste time?  Chicks aren’t.  Sign up today!