Picking Up Women: Advice From the Masters

If you want to learn how to pick up women, it pays to listen to the advice of a master.  And just your luck, we’ve got not one, but two bona fide pick up legends to share their expertise!

Neil Strauss, a.k.a. “Style”, is the New York Times bestselling author of The Game:  Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists.  David DeAngelo is a pick up pioneer who conducts lectures and workshops nationwide on the secrets behind meeting women.  Put them together, and what do you get?  A conversation you’ll definitely want to listen in on.

It’s easier than you think

A lot of guys read this stuff, or hear about it, and think it’s too good to be true; picking up women can’t possibly be this easy.  But give it a shot, and you’ll be surprised.

DeAngelo recalls the story of an average joe who attended one of his seminars.  He described how he had managed to strike up a conversation with an attractive woman in a public place just by walking up and saying, “Hi, I’m just out walking around, meeting people tonight, how you doing?”

“He couldn’t imagine, in his whole life, it would be that easy,” says DeAngelo.  “Just to literally, just walk up and say, ‘I’m out meeting people tonight.’”

Be prepared–be successful

The old Boy Scout motto applies just as much to picking up women as it does to starting a fire with two sticks.  And the best place to start preparing is your mind.  Get energized.  Remember, bars and clubs are there for entertainment:  everyone is there to have a good time.  Get yourself pumped up before you approach people.  You’ll have far more success picking up women with an active, energetic attitude than you will mopey, depressed, or still hung over from the previous night.

Plan out ways to strike up a conversation, too.  Have some one-liners and conversation openers ready to go.  This doesn’t mean you have to stick to them rigidly; if you hear anything interesting that could get people talking during the course of your day, don’t be afraid to give it a shot.  Being prepared doesn’t mean you can’t be flexible.

Obstacles on the path to pick up glory

Speaking of flexibility, one of the major mistakes most guys make, according to Strauss, is thinking too much.  Don’t get so bogged down in techniques and theory that you can’t respond spontaneously to a situation.  Strauss prepares for sarging the same way he prepares for an interview:  “I write down all the things I want to talk about, all the things I want to do…every point…I put it on a piece of paper, study it, fold it up, put it in my back pocket, and never look at it again.”  In other words, there’s a point where preparation has to stop, and spontaneity has to begin.  “Once you’re out there, you can’t think; you have to respond and be in the moment.”

Another common problem is fear of rejection.  Strauss is no stranger to nerves; despite having met thousands of women, he still gets butterflies before approaching a group of strangers.  But, as he puts it, you just have to give yourself a kick in the pants and do it.  And don’t be afraid of rejection–believe it or not, nothing too bad is going to happen.  “Never once has anyone been mean, or cruel, or hurt me, or shot me down,” he relates.  “The worst that’s happened is maybe, you know, I don’t engage them.”

You’ve heard it straight from the experts’ mouths; be confident, prepared, and flexible, and picking up women will come a lot easier than you might expect.  But you’ve still got to get your game down if you want to work magic like David DeAngelo or Neil Strauss.  So be sure to check out our Members’ Section for all the great techniques that make these guys the masters they are.  Time is women, so don’t waste it:  sign up today!