By this point, you should be well aware that cheesy pick up lines are not allowed. If you’re still walking up to women and asking “What’s your sign?”, you need to be in remedial pick up class. Head back to this video and study up, because we’re about to get over your head.
On the other hand, if you’ve been paying attention, you’re ready to learn some pick up alternatives. “How’s your day/night going?” is a great conversation opener, but now that you’re a little more advanced in your pick up studies, you can start to safely branch out a bit. A little variety never hurt anybody, and can actually help you become more effective in more diverse situations. So read on to learn some real pick up lines, and let the world become your playground.
The key is to start a conversation
Remember what made our universal pick up line, “How’s your day/night going?”, so great? It’s genuine, and it’s an open-ended question. These are the most important qualities of a real pick up line: it cannot sound canned or rehearsed, and it must lead into a conversation. “How’s your day/night going?” fits this bill just fine, but there’s no reason to limit yourself to it. Almost any original, open-ended question can be used to start a conversation.
Try asking a random question, like “Do you think chivalry is dead?” or “Do you think women will ever rule the world?” People in general love to talk, and giving them an excuse to spout out their opinion on a subject is one of the fastest ways to get them interested in you. Really, just about any open-ended question will suit this purpose; but it will be even more effective if you craft the question to suit your situation. You do this by observing your target woman.
Observe women–and comment on them
One tactic I’ve found particularly effective is to approach a girl who’s reading something, and ask her about it. Yeah, it’s kind of rude to interrupt someone in the middle of a book, but it works. Just go up to a girl and say, “Oh, are you a fan of Tom Robbins/Chuck Pahlaniuk/whatever she’s reading?” You’ll be surprised how many girls who read in public are really just waiting for the chance to talk about what they’re reading.
Using your observations as the basis of a pick up line is effective because you know already that the conversation is about something the woman’s interested in, or at least that’s on her mind. If she’s doing it, she probably has something to say about it. Moreover, it’s a great way to pick up women outside traditional pick up venues, like bars and clubs. Women in these kinds of places are generally there with the intention of meeting men, so it doesn’t matter too much how you approach them; but in a coffee shop, bookstore, or on the street, where everyone’s kind of expected to mind their own business, it can be harder to engage a woman in conversation. Observing her and starting a conversation based on that will give you an invaluable edge.
Advanced tactics: get creative!
Once you’re comfortable enough with working observational analysis into your pick up lines, you can even move beyond the open-ended question format. Try opening with a joke; if your observation and cocky comedy skills are up to par, this can be a great way to spark a woman’s interest immediately. Make fun of the drink she just ordered. Point out something weird about her hair, or the way she’s dressed. With practice, you can spout out something random and funny about nearly any situation you’ll encounter in daily life, making this a remarkably versatile pick up tool.
The important thing to remember if you want to go this route, however, is to be funny random, not creepy random. Usually, if you keep your comments relevant to the situation, you’ll avoid creepiness. Beyond that, just use common sense: don’t comment directly about her anatomy or anything like that. Not that you should be afraid to cross the line a little, but keep it in view. If you’ve got the right cocky funny attitude, and you don’t push the envelope too far, you should be fine.
In sum, don’t be afraid to experiment with pick up alternatives and new types of pick up lines; they’ll broaden your horizons considerably. Being able to use these techniques is one of the things that distinguishes a pick up beginner from a pick up master. Just make sure you’re well-grounded in the basics before you attempt these techniques; they’re powerful hoodoo, and if handled without care, could blow up in your face.
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